With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, there’s no better time to pen a good old-fashioned love letter. In the age of social media where emotions are boiled down to simple emojis, writing an actual letter to express your feelings is sure to be a gift your loved one will treasure. If you’re feeling intimidated about putting your emotions down on paper, don’t worry. By following these tips, you can come a lot closer to mastering the art of the love letter.
Where To Begin?
Writing a love letter takes time, thought and patience. This isn’t a cookie-cutter letter you’re writing; it’s a chance to dip deep and let your love flow. Consider opening with the reason why you’re sending the letter in the first place. This can be as short as a few words, or as lengthy as a few paragraphs. You can also talk about when you first met and how your life has changed since then. The more specific examples you can provide, the better. Talk about the helicopter ride you shared over the Hawaiian volcano, the first meal you cooked (and burnt), the day your child was born, or the time you did a belly flop in front of their whole family. Make your love letter reflect specific moments in time that celebrate the past and look forward to the future.
Focus on Your Beloved
It’s really important to show your love how much you value them as a person. Think of your letter as a custom-fit garment that will flatter their style and bring out their best self.
Ask yourself what your partner brings to your life--physically, emotionally, sexually and spiritually? How do they make your daily existence that much easier or better? What makes them so special in your eyes? How do they make the world a better place?
The goal is for them to read your letter and think, “It’s so amazing that they see me for exactly who I am and appreciate me for being me.”
Don’t be afraid to make it personal. What are the tiniest details that your beloved does that makes your heart light up? It could be the way that they cry at sappy movies, the way they eat sushi or the way they deliver a joke. Whatever it is, this is the time to open up and let your heart do the talking.
Now is the time to shift back to you, but make sure to explain how they have helped you change for the better. Whether they helped you live more in the moment or introduced you to a new favorite food, think about how your beloved has played a positive role in your personal growth. Letting them know this shows them that you truly appreciate their presence in your life.
As you’re ending your letter, it’s a nice idea to look to the future, making it clear that you envision this as an enduring relationship. You can mention a trip to Italy you’d like to take together, what your future children may look like, or how you want to grow old together. Just make sure that whatever you say, it indicates that you are looking forward to a shared future. Sign your letter with an extra dose of romance. “Love always, Emma,” “Forever yours, Charles,” or even a whimsical P.S. could work.
If you’re lucky enough to be in a committed relationship, take the opportunity to surprise and delight your beloved with a one-of-a-kind love letter. By making it heartfelt and highly personalized, you can let your partner know exactly why you love them and give a gift that keeps on giving. Happy writing!